Monday, January 14, 2008

"Whatever works" is not a free pass for cruelty

"Whatever works" is a favorite parenting and teaching mantra--because nobody's perfect, life's complicated, and sometimes you find yourself doing the less-than-ideal thing in dealing with kids. Here are some appropriate (invented but plausible) uses of the phrase, in my view:
  • "I let Leo bring a book to my cousin's tedious wedding reception, so he'd at least be quiet and have a decent time. My cousin was annoyed with me, but whatever works, right?"
  • "Okay, so I had to dress like a clown and sing a ridiculous song, but every kid in that class will remember what pi is, from here forward. So, whatever works!"
Note that in these instances, the risk and embarrassment were undertaken by the adult--not inflicted by an adult on a child. Note that "whatever works" isn't used as an excuse for humiliating a child, abusing a child, or causing a child unnecessary pain of any kind. Because ends can't justify those means--no ends--not ever--not with any child. "Whatever works" is not a free pass to be hurtful, cruel, or insensitive to another's pain. Who raised, and who taught, the officials who believe otherwise?logo

For Blogging against Aversives Day--click the link for many other bloggers on the subject.

11 comments:

Anonymous said...

ugg bootsTHE SNOW wholesale ugg bootsSTARTED TO FALLWholesale handbags SEVERAL HOURS wholesale clothingBEFORE HER laborWholesale jewelry began.wholesale clothing A few flakes wholesale handbagsfirst, wholesale furniturein the dull Furniture Wholesalegray late-afternoon Wholesale jewelrysky,Ceramic tileand then Micro sd cardswind-driven swirls Wholesale clothingand eddies Wholesale Jewelryaround the edges Wholesale fashion jewelryof their wide Wholesale costume jewelryfront porch. ugg bootsHe stood by her wholesaleside at the windowwholesale electronics, watching sharp gusts of snow billow,skin care products
then swirl and drift to the ground. All around the neighborhood, lights came on, and the naked branches of the trees turned white.

Anonymous said...

ugg bootsOutside,uggs snow continuedHigh pressure blower to fall quietly throughIndustrial fan the darkness, Industrial bloweras bright and thick Commercial bloweras static in the wholesalecones of light castchina wholesale by the streetlights.wholesale shoes By the time he rosewholesale clothing and looked out watchesthe window, pressure blowertheir car had become a soft white hill on the edge pressure blowersof the street.fans Already his footprints blowers
in the driveway had filled and disappeared.

Anonymous said...

wholesaleShe looked up, wholesale atvsmiling, wedding dresseswhen he tuckedMP3 player
the blanketwholesale mp3 around her legs.Wholesale Mp4
"You know,digital camera wholesale I've been wondering consumer electronicswhat it's like,"mp5 player she said. memory cards"Before we're born,Car video players I mean. It's too bad we can't remember." gps devicesShe opened her robe and pulled up the bluetooth headsetsweater she wore underneath, revealing a Mp3 Wholesalebelly as round and hard asMp3 Wholesale a melon. Mp4 WholesaleShe ran her hand across its smooth surface, Mp4 Wholesalefirelight playing across her skin, casting reddish gold onto her hair.

dhd said...

welcome to the wow power leveling, cheap service site, buy cheap wow gold,wow gold,world of warcraft power leveling buy wow power leveling

china yiwu said...

Today is Chinese Lantern Festival. China wholesale. We eat glue pudding, watch flower lamp. A very happy time. It is very meaningful. We hope family reunion, family harmony, friends gather and business prosperity. In this special day, I send my best regards to you and your family. Hope you can share the happy with us. Let us go to Yiwu China, the famous international trade city in Asia. Yiwu is a city built on wholesale marekt. Yiwu market is the world's largest wholesale market of small commodities, promotional gifts, dollar items, lingerie wholesale, shoes wholesale, keychains wholesale and more. Need yiwu agent? China Amanda is your ideal China sourcing, trade partner in Yiwu China. Wholesale shoes, Wholesale boots, Wholesale sneakers, Wholesale casual shoes, Wholesale dress shoes, Wholesale sandals, Wholesale slippers, from Yiwu, good quality, China wholesale direct from China manufacturers, for all your cheap wholesale needs, your one stop China suppliers. Start your one stop China discount wholesale sourcing here today and experience top notch service and fast shipping. Welcome to Yiwu China to buy China wholesale products all at lowest wholesale price on www.AmandaIEC.com. Happy Lantern Festival!

Anonymous said...

cheap wedding gownsdiscount bridal gownsChina wedding dressesChina wedding online storediscount designer wedding dresses

China wedding online store said...

cheap wedding gownsdiscount bridal gownsChina wedding dressesChina wedding online storediscount designer wedding dresses

Lorraine said...

cheap wedding gowns
discount bridal gowns
China wedding dresses
discount designer wedding dresses
China wedding online store
plus size wedding dresses
cheap informal wedding dresses
junior bridesmaid dresses
cheap bridesmaid dresses
maternity bridesmaid dresses
discount flower girl gowns
cheap prom dresses
party dresses
evening dresses
mother of the bride dresses
special occasion dresses
cheap quinceanera dresses
hot red wedding dresses

Anonymous said...

Replica Handbags
Fake Handbags
Knockoff Handbags

Replica Louis Vuitton Handbags
Replica Gucci Handbags
Replica Chanel Handbags
Prada Handbags
Replica Fendi Handbags
Replica Dolce Gabbana Handbags
Replica Chloe Handbags
Replica Jimmy Choo Handbags
Replica Thomas Wylde Handbags
Replica MiuMiu Handbags

Replica Balenciaga Handbags
Replica Coach Handbags
Replica Lancel Handbags
Replica Hermes Handbags
Replica Marc Jacobs Handbags
Replica Anya Hindmarch Handbags
Replica YSL Handbags
Replica Mulberry Handbags
Replica Givenchy Handbags
Replica Valentino Handbags
Replica Versace Handbags
Replica Cartier Handbags
Replica Marni Handbags
Replica Bottega Veneta Handbags
Replica Loewe Handbags
Replica Kooba Handbags

Replica Bally Handbags
Replica Burberry Handbags
Replica Christian Dior Handbags
Replica Juicy Couture Handbags
Replica Ferragamo Handbags
Replica Celine Handbags

freefun0616 said...

酒店經紀人,
菲梵酒店經紀,
酒店經紀,
禮服酒店上班,
酒店小姐兼職,
便服酒店經紀,
酒店打工經紀,
制服酒店工作,
專業酒店經紀,
合法酒店經紀,
酒店暑假打工,
酒店寒假打工,
酒店經紀人,
菲梵酒店經紀,
酒店經紀,
禮服酒店上班,
酒店經紀人,
菲梵酒店經紀,
酒店經紀,
禮服酒店上班,
酒店小姐兼職,
便服酒店工作,
酒店打工經紀,
制服酒店經紀,
專業酒店經紀,
合法酒店經紀,
酒店暑假打工,
酒店寒假打工,
酒店經紀人,
菲梵酒店經紀,
酒店經紀,
禮服酒店上班,
酒店小姐兼職,
便服酒店工作,
酒店打工經紀,
制服酒店經紀,
酒店經紀,

,

HONG said...

nike air max 90
nike air max 95
nike air max tn
nike air rift
nike shox r4
nike air max 360
nike shox nz
puma mens shoes
puma shoes
puma speed
nike shoes
nike air
nike air shoes
puma cat
air max trainers
mens nike air max
nike shoes air max
nike shoes shox
air shoes
nike shoe cart
puma future
cheap puma
sports shoes
nike air rifts
nike air rift trainer
nike air
nike rift
nike rift shoes
cheap nike air rifts
bape shoes
jeans shop
diesel jeans
levis jeans